The Upanayana
is a very important traditional ceremony.
When our children are young, and we are also young, we notice the many
changes in the lives of our children.
The first tooth, the first roll, the first step and so on. As we grow along with our children, we notice
less and less. The changes are also less
dramatic and the stages are less visible.
The upanayana comes at one such important stage of life which
would otherwise have crept in and gone past us without us being much aware of
the significant changes in the life of our child.
The child is
a universal being. You can look at
parenting magazines and see how accurately they predict what your toddler will
do. However the same is not true of
adults. We have to see sun signs,
horoscopes, planetary positions, stages of life and what not. Even then it is difficult to predict what an
adult will do. It is because he has
acquired a very unique individuality.
This individuality consisting of both positive and negative traits is
awakened in the child in stages.
At the age of
5, the first awakening occurs – it is the awakening of the universal spirit –
it is pure joy and simply purposeless.
The child becomes a darling at this age – this age is popularly called
‘fantastic five’. This is a reminder for
the parents as to where they came from and where they ought to be headed. Friends, the aim of our lives is to attain
the purity, truth and bliss of that wonderful age of five, with our adult
consciousness – it is to knowingly be pure, centered and blissful.
Usually
between the ages of 8 and 11, the first purely positive awakening of the
child’s individuality happens. The child
suddenly knows what it is to be sober or quiet and be responsible. All its positive tendencies from previous
births are awakened in a subtle form.
This is a great wave and a great opportunity for parents to harness the
potential of their child. This is the
time for the Upanayana. Of course
the appropriate age for their child will only be known to the parents, or
perhaps more accurately to the mother.
The next mixed awakening comes with puberty and this surge has both
crests and troughs, it often tends to herald a period of tumult and
unsettlement. If by this time, the child
has been initiated into the adult world through the upanayana, then it
becomes far easier for him to handle the ups and downs of going through puberty
and coming into his own. The Upanayana
therefore is the doorstep to this second stage of life. It is virtually a rebirth. With the upanayana, the son then
becomes a twice born or dwija.
The Upanayana is also called Brahmopadesha.
What is this Brahmopadesha? It is the beginning of the relationship
between father and son. It is the
beginning of a tremendous growth period for the child and the beginning of
‘letting go’ for the parents. In this
ceremony the father imparts a sacred mantra to his son and the mother has the
last meal with her baby, the matru bhojana. After this day, he is not to be treated as a
mere child. The father is to initiate
the Gaayatri secretly into the ears of his son. With this, begins the confidential
relationship between father and son to which none is privy.
The Brahmopadesha
puts the father squarely as the middling piece in a continuous father-son
tradition that started at least a few thousand years ago. It is a priceless gem in the hands of the
father and the passing on of this gem to his son for him to transfer thereon to
his offspring, puts the father for the first time in the position of giving a
blessing as opposed to receiving one.
The mother is much more fortunate, for she blesses her child with her
whole being at the very first moment of its birth, while the father is clearing
the hospital bill at the front desk. For
this single lapse, the father has to wait 8,10 or 11 years before he too can
step into the shoes of the mother.
The Brahmopadesha
is not merely a sermon. It is the
beginning of a spiritual relationship between father and son. It is the bringing nearer of the son, to the
spirit of the father, it is the Upanayana also. ‘Upanayana’ means to ‘bring nearer’. Through the act of performing this upadesha,
the son moves closer to the father, and the father, closer to his son. It is not just blindly taking him closer, it
is with vision; through the opening of the third eye of wisdom. Is the third eye opened so easily? Of course not. It is only the first day, when the son comes
to know of the third eye, the eye of wisdom.
The physical world is a strange and beautiful place. Not everything is the way it seems. Not everyone is who they seem to be. Seeing and acting based on what you see
through just the two eyes, we err and pay for our mistakes. The third eye of wisdom and balance gives us
the complete vision to make the correct choices. So, Upanayana, also means – an
additional eye. Performing the
upanayana brings the son closer to the father and two of them closer to Him who
is once both Father and Mother to all of us.
We are doing a sacred duty and acknowledging our relationship with
Him. Which father would not like his
relationship to be acknowledged by his son?
‘He’ is no exception!
When, you may
wonder is the wisdom of the Upanayana useful to us? Whenever we are at crossroads. Whenever we are at an intersection. Whenever we are at a ‘sandhya’! Sandhya is a junction, a fork at which
we have to decide which way to go. With
all the tendencies of the child awakening, life presents itself as a series of
alternatives, in which he has to choose either this way or that. To help him recognize that he is coming to a
fork, the father shows him the junction between the day and the night, the sandhya
kaala. This is a junction we come
across every day. If the father can
train his son to see both sides of this junction with awareness and live his
daily life by always choosing light, he has successfully taught his son a very
important lesson of life.
And what is
that most important lesson that says we have chosen by the light? It is vandana, or gratitude. It is the attitude of gratitude to Life for
all that we receive. It is gratitude at
every junction of life, for the freedom of choice we have. It is sandhya vandana.
And to whom
do we owe this gratitude? To Savita
[wrongly mistaken to be feminine gender commonly, the word ‘Savita’ is actually
masculine and refers to the Sun] or the Source from which we all arise,
that source which is worthy of worship, tat savitur varENyaM – to that deep
and internal source and substratum, we show this gratitude, this reverence.
And how do we
show this gratitude?
By meditating
– dheemahi –
on that
effulgent and divine source, bhargO
dEvasya –
of all the
three worlds – bhoor, bhuvah, svah
- the earthly, the astral and the divine,
of all the
three aspects of our identity -
physical, mental and spiritual,
of the three
intensities of our expression – heart, mind and soul, as well as
the three
modes of expression – word, thought and deed.
And by doing
so, may we receive that blessing of wisdom.
May our intellect be properly guided – dhiyo yo nah prachodayaat. This shall be the prayer that the father
teaches the son – the Gaayatri Mantra:
OM
bhoorbhuva svaH |
tatsaviturvarENyaM bhargO dEvasya
dheemahi |
dhiyO yOnaH
prachOdayaat ||
In saying
this great mantra, originally discovered by the great sage Vishwamitra and that
which is part of the Rg. Veda, our forefathers have invariably linked it with
the Sun. When the sun’s rays fall on the
plants, the chlorophyll reacts with carbon-di-oxide and releases the elixir of
life, oxygen. The plants verily swallow
sunlight, digest and exude prana or life force.
Consuming plant food, animals and human beings thrive. Thus the Sun becomes the manifest source of
our existence, he becomes our oldest forefather who watches over us and
provides food every day.
In the
morning, just as one readies one’s house ahead of an honoured visitor’s
arrival, the parents – more often the mother than the father - teach the son to
get up before sun rise, finish his ablutions and welcome the foremost of his
forefathers, the Sun, Aditya. During
this time, his mind is clear and he is able to connect straightaway to his soul. Therefore he prays to Gaayatri, the form of the divine source that is deeply spiritual,
so that his awareness of the deepest recesses of his soul is heightened.
At noon, his
mind has become active and is at the height of its expression and the son is
therefore taught to pray to Savitri, the form of the divine that rules
over the realm of the mind. By dusk, the
word has become his dominant expression and to cleanse that field, the vatu is
taught to pray to Saraswati, the divine form of all knowledge and
expression. The evening prayer is done
just prior to sundown, a send off to the Sun God with gratitude for all that he
has bestowed on us.
By
remembering the sun at dawn, noon and dusk, the three junctions of the day, we
perform the Sandhya Vandana and the sacred Gaayatri Mantra shall
remind us to express gratitude to all of life and receive the wisdom that will
brighten our intellect and enable us to make a choice that will lead us towards
the light, towards that divine source from whence we have come.
It is
important to note that the Brahmopadesha is perhaps the most significant
of the 16 samskaaras. Each of
these samskaaras is performed at a different stage of life. This is because various desires and
tendencies that we carry from previous births become manifest at various stages
of life. These tendencies are called
vaasanaas. Vaasanaas are like seeds that
are carried with us and sprout at different ages. Such tendencies and weaknesses exist in
everyone. At that time, if the parents
or elders are able to perform the appropriate samskaara and impart the correct
wisdom by doing the prescribed samskaaras, we can put our potentials in
a proper perspective and adopt a healthy and vibrant attitude in life. We can fry the negative seeds so that they
don’t sprout and plant the healthy seeds in a nurturing environment. Thereby, we can mitigate negative tendencies
and promote a wholesome attitude to life.
The Sandhya
vandanam is a votary of brief rituals each of which is a powerful aid for
health and well being and vastly significant in doing the one task for which we
take birth - remembrance of our connection with the Divine. The central and most imprtant ritual is the Gaayatri Japa sincerely with or without
knowing the meaning, that awakens the intellect and awareness of the Divine
that is hidden in the cave of our hearts.
In a sincere vatu, the power of the Gaayatri
when repeated 1008 times continuously can result in the positive rising of the
bio-electric current within the body which will remove all untoward
inclinations from previous births granting us a fresh slate from which to lead
our life. This will mitigate the ill
effects of hidden tendencies that will appear during the life of any human
being based on the karma of his previous life, and firmly establishes the boy
in the sacred lineage into which he is born – so that he may be a shining
beacon for generations to come.
OM shaantih shaanthih shaantihi
Shri
rangapriya sadgurave namah
With Narayana
smaranams